 Gullandemporium1 12 years ago | it’s a stinker this being alone with the sadness of what feels like a revolving door syndrome..my father used to call a vicious cycle a vicious circus which is because he was french and did not speak English in the 50s when I was a kid, it has always made me laugh, I hope it can make you laugh too..Both myself and my brother were badly abused by dad however but I know there is so much more to this life than just this dimension which brought about the laughing plus I don’t see him anymore, even though my brother can(just about)he is a broken old man now..I had to be very strong for both my son and daughter, had two dreadful marriages, talk about dysfunctional behaviours, I am on the list of A listers, probably with yourself from the sounds of it. My son was diagnosed all sorts of things including autistic, my daughter was born with a severe heart defect and we are lucky she is still alive, but somehow we have been blessed by good friends and travelling companions on this road we are now on, and I am sure we can touch base across the ocean and be a good foundation stone for each other at this time. My husband is a composer and drinks and smokes and although he encourages me to do my artwork, etc I find it tough as I am the same weight as he is and he turns on me about my food abuse if I tackle him about staying up most nights drinking, although he works all night composing. I cannot complain but I feel anxious about this as I feel he may die suddenly or get a long drawn illness like cancer. I feel good when I am on a roll, get the same bringdown syndrome though as I return to bad habits like you have talked about..what to do? Touch base and try again. We had to be too darn strong for too darn long! Let’s be kind to ourselves here, we are in recovery, let’s not be unfair..we are not broken dolls, just dolls that have been through the wars, let’s make a charter for a peaceful time now while we can..let’s break those patterns by sharing and caring xx |
 telepath 12 years ago | I will try to write down my feelings when or if this happens again.
I will try the snacks you suggested. when a person has suffered for many years with an eating disorder it can come back at any moment.
You cannot take food away because you need it to nourish you.
I am just taking one day at a time.
Thank you for your advice. |
 Deborahjjhayes 12 years ago | Have you tried Skinny Pop or Nearly Naked popcorn? Both are approved by Ossie. It makes a great 30 calorie a cup snack
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| Deborahjjhayes 12 years ago | Have you ever tried writing to break the cycle? Just keeping a journal to grab right quickly when you know you are having those emotions? Writing always seems to get it out of my heart and soul and onto the paper!! Then you can look back and see how far you’ve come emotionally and see what it was that helped you that day! |
| telepath 12 years ago | I will try. Thanks for your encouragement. |
 Tweety425 12 years ago | ok, so…. use the treadmill when it’s emotions, and when the hubby comes home have a salad with him – salad is all you can eat and it’s crunchy & nice. Or maybe some celery sticks when he is snacking too. |
| telepath 12 years ago | I do walk on the treadmill in the morning.
The problem is in the evening.
My husband gets home around 8 to 8:30 pm.
I heat up his dinner and afterward he eats his snacks
in front of me.
I tried walking out of the room and he gets mad at me.
I know that is takes 28 days to break a bad habit.
I wish I could be alone for that amount of time. |
| Tweety425 12 years ago | buy a treadmill & walk instead of eat when your upset. Walk it off. “a first step towards breaking the cycle” ~pun intended, but really… walking can make you feel better too. It gives you time to sort what’s happening out in your mind, rather than sweets you regret. If no treadmill, then walk outside, make a path in your mind & call it your serenity path & walk it when your upset. |
| telepath 12 years ago | I have always been an emotional eater. My teenage daughter suffers from depression. She was having meltdowns on a daily basis. I was strong for her and supported her through her crisis.
I was sneaking sweets like there was no tomorrow.
This as a coping habit I learned as a child coming from an abusive family.
I desperately want to break the vicious cycle.
Does anyone have suggestions? |
